We all end up in jobs that are not the right fit for us. It happens.
And even if you do not “hate” your job” (I know that’s a really strong word), I really invite you to listen to this episode if you feel unhappy, unfulfilled, unsatisfied or stuck at your job.
I truly get it because I have been there. That’s why I am a career coach for women who want to break out of their impostor syndrome and self-doubt and into fulfilling careers. Sometimes the worst thing about a job is knowing that you are not living up to your career potential. So if you are in that position, this is the episode for you and I’m really going to walk you through the stages on how to transition into leaving a job you hate and how to keep yourself accountable along the way. However, if you are looking for more help, I want to remind you that my 1:1 career coaching program is now open!
And for whatever reason – the boss, the environment, or the career path itself, it can be easy to feel trapped in a toxic job or environment.
Because sometimes, it might not be anything about the job itself.
Some of the worse jobs I was in was actually where I was super comfortable, but I wasn’t growing at all.
Whatever it might be, you are not stuck. I know it can feel that way because I have been there. It can especially feel like you are trapped because you have committed to this career path and you don’t want to waste your previous experience.
However, I don’t believe that everyone can quit their job without a backup plan. I know there’s so much advice out there to “quit your job and start a job online or join my MLM” (no matter how unhappy you are at your job, an MLM is not worth it).
If you can quit your job and be financially secure, that’s great! But not everyone has that privilege. If you have an emergency fund or family/partner to support you, then yes it is easier and you could quit without a backup plan.
But not everyone has that. I know because while I used to live with my family. I could have quit any job and still have food to eat every day and a warm place to sleep, and now live with my partner who can financially support us for a while if we needed it, and I have an emergency fund. But I didn’t always have those things.
Before we start, I want to be clear that no job is worth your mental or physical health. So there is a time and place to quit your job abruptly.
However, in this article, we are really going to focus on those jobs that you might be unhappy in, but can quit cold turkey.
What can you do if you hate your job and can’t quit? A lot. Let’s get started!
1. List out all the things you like about your workplace.
Chances are, not everything about your job is horrible. You accepted it for a reason and there is likely something you like about your job (spoiler alert: it can be salary).
One of the most important things you need to look at when you hate your job is taking back the responsibility of accepting and working in this job.
You don’t have to go to work. Lots of people don’t go to work. But chances are, you enjoy things that your job brings you and that can be your salary. Before you start ranting and venting about your job to everyone you know (I have been that person), think about all the things you may be grateful for (especially during a time like COVID). Here are some ideas for things you might like about your workplace:
1. The salary that allows you to buy food, have a warm home, and spend time with friends and family.
2. Your co-workers.
3. Your work or the projects you get to work on.
4. Your clients
5. Office snacks.
Before you start looking for a new job, it’s really important to work on your mindset on how you view your current job. When you are looking at transitioning into a new job or career, it’s really important to come from it a place of opportunity rather than a place of desperation. By listing out what you like about your job, you can see there were things you still like about your job, and evaluate the next few stages with a level of objectivity. This will allow you to create a transition plan that is sustainable to make sure your next job is one that will really fulfills you, instead of just an escape plan.
2. List out all the things you do not like about your workplace
After you have listed all the things you’re grateful for in your job, it’s time to understand the root cause of why you hate your job and what about it that is it makes you unhappy. Start listing out all the things you don’t like about your workplace. However, instead of only listing out generic statements like “my boss is terrible” that are phrased as facts, list them out on how it makes you feel. For example:
1. I don’t like my workplace because my boss makes me feel small.
2. I don’t like my workplace because my everyday tasks feel mundane and I feel bored.
3. I don’t like my workplace because I feel too comfortable and I’m not living up to my career potential.
It is really important to differentiate the statements from fact to feeling because that way you look at your work objectively when you
There is no point in quitting a bad job to go to another job where you feel unhappy to go to another job that makes you feel unhappy. That’s why it’s so important to understand why you do not like your job so you can make sure
3. Set a deadline to leave.
I’ve been there where I was super unhappy at my job, but I wouldn’t leave. I was the type of person that would complain to everyone, but I would still stay at my job. After you realize that you don’t like your job, create a realistic deadline of when you can leave. No, you probably will not be able to quit next week, but you could probably in 1 month, or 3 months or 6 months depending on your industry (I work in government and hiring takes FOREVER).
Something that really helped me quit my job and stick to the deadline is creating an affirmation. When I really wanted to quit my job, I wrote down an affirmation 10x every day that said “I will celebrate my last day at this job by X date.”
I know it can feel weird to write down these affirmations if you are not used to it, but not only do affirmations help you create the right mindset, it keeps you focused. We all know the person who said they would quit their job and 2 years later, they are still there. Create a deadline and affirm it every day.
4. Create An Exit Strategy
you know why you are unhappy and set a deadline, start looking at a new career path or workplace (if you like your industry). Start researching other careers or companies and list out a plan. You are going to quit, now where will you go? Will you be taking a financial hit if you go to a new industry or what will your finances look like? Do you want to work from home? It’s really important to start creating a work plan and assess what you want from your new job. Create an exit strategy with the timeline you have given yourself and list out your new career, what skills are required, and your ideal environment/workplace.
5. Look for Development Opportunities at Your Current Job
Now that you know where you are going and what new career you want to embark on, it’s important to make the most out of your current job. Look for development opportunities and trainings. I am a career coach that specializes in helping women overcome their impostor syndrome so they can stop being the admin/assistant and really live up to their career potential and one of the things I coach my clients through is to let go of people-pleasing in their job so they can focus on getting ahead.
If you’re like me, you’re a high achiever and a people pleaser and usually think of yourself last. This can be very difficult because you always want to put others first. However, when you are looking to leave your career you need to put yourself first.
Identify which tasks at work just need to be done. Not every email needs to be worded perfectly, it needs to be sent, and focus on any development trainings your workplace offers. If they don’t offer anything, make sure to focus on projects that will develop the skills you like and want to use when you leave.
It may seem selfish, but putting your career first is not selfish. Value your worth.
6. Update Your Resume and Start Your Job Search
Now that you know you need to leave, it’s time to start your job search! Make sure you refer back to your career work plan and list of things you do and do not like about your job to make sure it aligns with your values.
There are so many articles on millenniallifeadmin.com on how to update your resume so I won’t go into detail here, but here are some great articles to get you started:
I’ve also written a lot about how to skyrocket your job search so make sure you download my job search tracker before you start applying for jobs! It is the most popular resource with over 500+ downloads.
7. Expand your network
As you are starting to embark on your job search, make sure to network with industry professionals! Not only is networking beneficial to your job search but it will help you get an idea of what other careers and companies are like. Request information interviews from industry professionals on LinkedIn, but don’t forget to update your LinkedIn profile (this is how you create the perfect LinkedIn profile) and don’t make these LinkedIn mistakes!
8. Start a side project
If you are looking to start a new career and need to develop a certain skill (i.e. coding, marketing, etc.) try starting a side project to develop that skill! And even if you like your current career or industry, it’s so important to have hobbies and passions outside of work, so start a side project as a creative outlet! That’s what I did will MLA and now it’s my side business 🙂
It can feel easy to be trapped in comfortable jobs that deep down you are unhappy in, but it’s so important to start taking action. Why? Because when we are working in a job we hate, but stay, it means that there it’s not toxic or urgent enough to leave, and we’ve grown tolerant of it. And so we stay until something big happens and we feel like we need to leave right away. It’s a vicious cycle that I’m here to help you quit.
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You can do this. Good luck!